I know that sounds far out, but it is a trap we easily fall into. We want others to be like us, to act like us, to think like us in every way. However, if all Christians were like us the church would not be a better place (we all think it would be whether we realize it or not). It would be a monster... The irony of trying to make others into ourselves is that in our success we fail. If we succeed in making them into what we want, they will never be able to be what God wants. We create a uniformity, but fall short of unity. Every believer is unique, and created by God for unique purpose, they will never be happy in another position and there will be no grace for it either, because God only gives grace to accomplish His will. To attempt to make others into what we are is a sin, it is pride and esteeming ourselves to highly, it also is rebellion against God who formed that person for another purpose.
In Song of Solomon Chapter 8, the beloved has grown in her relationship with the Lord and has responsibility over younger siblings, in verse 9 speaking of one of these she says, “If she [be] a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if she [be] a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar.” Note, the wisdom here... what is done is to aid the person in improving the ministry and gift of God which He has already formed in them, not in making them something else.
On a personal note, about four years ago the Lord spoke to me the name of my spiritual tribe. I had not ever thought of it, but one night right after I had finished praying, as I was about to go to sleep, He spoke. When He did, I looked up that tribe, and I began to understand myself. Things about me that I had wondered about... is that just my personality, or do I need to change? Things I had been unhappy with myself about, became clear. That was how God had made me, for a specific purpose. So, instead of decrying those traits, now I love them, because they please God. Without those traits I could not fulfill my ministry. I have no desire that others should be like me... believe me one of me is plenty, a little goes a long way. I do have a desire though, that you should be like Christ. Also that I may be like Christ. If we all grow to the full stature of Christ there can be no complaints. Amen.